Principality of Rejection

The Nature of the Principality of Rejection

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The definition of Rejection means to cast from one; to throw away; to refuse; to put aside, to remove from your presence.  As a noun, the word rejection means a person or thing rejected as not up to some standard. 

·       Feeling rejected is one of the most devastating of all human emotions, and it is usually ill-founded.  But we can’t defeat Rejection if we have given Bitterness, Envy and Jealousy a place in our lives.

·       Rejection robs people of relationships.  Rejection will make people feel that others don’t love them.

·       It is a form of unbelief.  It says that you are not accepted of God and in order to be accepted of God you have to be accepted of people first.

·       Rejection communicates that a person is unacceptable, of no value, doesn’t belong, unwanted, can’t fit in and unloved.  Rejection communicates this message through a disgusted look, disdain, an impatient answer, a snub, through neglect, through abandoning someone, through silence, to name just a few.

·       Rejection can be real or imagined.  Either way, we know the feeling when we’ve been rejected.

·       We’re born with an innate longing for love and acceptance.  The Word of God tells us that we are loved, adopted and accepted, but the Spirit of Rejection has an assignment to steal those truths away from us.

·       There are two ingredients for rejection: it really did happen, or the person imagined it.  About 60-70 percent of all rejection is imagined

and the person really was not rejected, but because they have a Spirit of Rejection, they take every little look, every little word, every little sound, etc. and twist and turn it to make themselves feel rejected.

·       You need to start accepting yourself as God has accepted you from before the foundation of the world.  Let God be true and every man a liar.

Romans 8:15 – “For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” (NKJ).

Rejection consists of four major aspects.

·       First, Rejection tells us we are unwanted, put aside and refused.  It’s a feeling of being unloved and not accepted either as a member of a group, by a friend, a family member or sometimes, even the human race.  Rejection places a wall around us that repels acceptance even when it is offered.

·       Second, Rejection reminds us of our desperate need to be loved and at the same time we’re convinced we’re unloved.  This causes emotional torment.  Rejection drives love from us and drives us from love. 

·       This Unloving spirit tells us that no one can ever really love us – we’re unlovable.  Any time someone begins to open love’s door to us, Unloving spirits slam it shut with accusations that we’re unworthy of being loved.

·       As someone starts to show love toward us, Rejection starts picking their affection apart.  Rejection judges facial expressions and body language, or evaluates nuances, subconsciously looking for a reason to feel more rejected.

·       Rejection blocks our ability to reconcile differences with others over misunderstandings.  It carries us into Bitterness; keeping a record of wrongs.

·       The fear of being rejected is fueled by the fear of man and by the fear of failure.  Rejection, Unloving spirits and Fear work together.

·       Third, though people offer love and acceptance to us, we’re unable to believe them and receive it.  Giving and receiving love forms the foundation for our relationship with God, others and ourselves.  Love has the power to break Rejection and Fear.

·       Fourth, though we desire “to be a part of something”, we never feel like we belong.  We attempt to become involved in family, church, a group of friends or some organization, or we strive to fit in at work.  This sense of “not belonging” is Rejection.  Shame and guilt result from Rejection, making us feel uncomfortable and like we don’t “fit in”.

Plagued by Rejection

·       Rejection produces double-mindedness.  “I know God said He loves me, but I don’t feel His love.”  Feelings cannot be trusted.  We constantly argue with God’s eternal truth, bolstered by Satan’s eternal lies.  Rejection robs us of our true identity in Christ Jesus.

·       You choose what you are going to believe and you cannot intermingle your beliefs with Truth.

·       Rejection causes us to run and hide, or to search for our identity in all the wrong places.

Rejection in the Work Place

·       In the work place Rejection drives people to focus on their “position”.  They want an identity, title and status.  A person who has a healthy, true identity rooted in Christ knows who he or she is and is content.  They don’t overly strive for position or status, and because of this, others often seek them out for leadership.

·       Rejection is an acknowledgement of agreement with Satan’s lies.  Believing Satan’s lies calls God a liar.  Romans 3:4 “…let God be true and every man a liar…”.

Rejection’s Claims

·       Scripture teaches that rejection is just as dangerous as unbelief and faithlessness.  Rejection claims that God’s acceptance of us rests on us first winning people’s acceptance.  It puts people in the place of God, because it gives irrational weight to man’s acceptance.  We let humans define our reality, choosing them instead of God.

·       When we make winning people’s approval our god, we are in idolatry.  Idolatry carries a curse down a family line through the third and fourth generations.  Exodus 20:3 says, “You shall have no other gods before Me.” Lev. 26:1, “You shall not make idols for yourselves;”. Exodus 20:3-5 and Deuteronomy 5:7-9 tell of the curses to the third and fourth generations.  (NKJ)

Rejection Wounds Our Spirit.

·       Proverbs 18:8 says, “The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.” (KJV)

·       Negative comments uttered years ago by our parents may have penetrated deep into our spirit, putting us under the influence of those words ever since.  Proverbs 18:14 says, “The spirit of a man will sustain him in sickness.  But who can bear a broken spirit?”  Again in Proverbs 18:21, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue; and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”

·       Our words have power and they will be honored – either by God or Satan and his evil spirits.  We can curse or bless others.  We can curse or bless ourselves.  We can set evil spirits in motion by our words.  “I wish I never had you.”  “You’re nothing but trouble.”  “I never wanted you in the first place.  You were just an accident.”  “Your middle name is trouble.  You’ll never amount to anything.”

·       To defeat the curse of words we must fall out of agreement with them.  Reject them and instead, believe God’s Word.  Accept God’s will and His promises, and the power of an evil spirit to execute those words will be broken.  This needs to be followed by forgiveness.

·       If we have spoken these kinds of evil words, or gotten in agreement with these thoughts, we must take responsibility and repent, and renounce them.

The roots of Rejection are a tangled mess with four identifiable causes.

·       The fear of Rejection.  Rejection by itself is tough enough, but when coupled with the fear of Rejection it becomes even more powerful.  The fear itself produces more Rejection.  Compare faith to fear.  Faith is the substance of things hoped for (Hebrews 11:1).  Fear is the substance of things not hoped for.  Faith says the eventual outcome of events will be for the better.  Fear says all things happen for our detriment (Job 3:25, 26). 

·       Remember, fear and faith are equal in this dimension, they both project into the future and they will both be fulfilled. 

·       There are three powerful demons that answer to Fear and Rejection working in tandem.  They are fear of man, fear of failure, and fear of rejection.  All three must be defeated!

·       God says to be anxious – i.e., nervous or distraught – about nothing.  Philippians 4:16 (NKJ).  Believers are to be free of anxiety.  Isaiah 26:3 says, “You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.” (NKJ).

·       Self-rejection.  Self-rejection often results in an intense and sometimes irrational drive to succeed.   There is a need to prove to our parents, the world and ourselves that we are valuable and useful.

·       If we grew up in a home where we did not experience unconditional love and acceptance, and where we were treated as someone with very little value, we may well experience Rejection and self-rejection even as adults.

·       Rejecting others.  We habitually reject others first before they reject us.  In this way, we protect ourselves from the hurt of future Rejection.  We fear becoming vulnerable and transparent with others, and we have a hard time trusting anyone.  This can also influence our trust in God.

·       The desire for Rejection.  This is the most perverse result of Rejection.  It is the fruit of an Unloving spirit of self-hatred.  We actually set ourselves up for Rejection by treating others poorly or with indifference.  In reality, we are seeking Rejection from them.  Rejection reinforces and validates our lack of self-worth and lack of identity.

Defense Mechanisms

Being rejected sets various defense mechanisms in action.  We withdraw from others like a turtle hiding in its shell.  Rejection says, “I’m not going to let myself be vulnerable.  I’m not going to let people reject me again.”

·       Fear of failure drives a defense mechanism that prohibits us from taking chances in a relationship.  By risk avoidance, we protect ourselves from Rejection, but also miss much of life.

·       Rejection naturally seeks for a meaningful identity outside of a whole, pure relationship with God.  Rejection distorts us so no one, including us, even knows our real self.

·       Rejection looks for identity and comfort from other people, not God.  Instead of patterning ourselves after Christ, we idolize other people.

Possible sources of Rejection.

·       Fatherless homes often produce children subject to Rejection.  Fatherless homes lack a clear identity, causing the children to miss out on the fullness of feeling loved and accepted.  The father establishes the identity and emotional stability in the home.

·       Rejection can stem from the lives of our ancestors.  Spiritual problems can be inherited.  Sin can continue from generation to generation unless someone repents and puts a stop to it.

·       Rejection can occur at conception if one or both of the parents are not happy about the coming of the baby.  If a child is unwanted, a door opens for a Spirit of Rejection to enter into the child sometimes while in the womb.  God gave all of us life and He knew each of us before laying the foundation of the world.  His hands knit us together in our mother’s womb.  God has a plan and purpose for each of us.

·       Sometimes parents are disappointed with their baby’s gender.  The father complains, “I don’t know what to do with you.  If you were a boy, it would be different.”

·       Fathers sometimes build up great resentment toward their infant child because of all the attention it receives from the mother.  A Spirit of Rejection transfers from the father to the baby, and that child matures caught in the vicious cycle of Rejection.

·       Blended families are ripe for the influence of the Spirit of Rejection.  The newly married parents need time to get to know each other.  Each worry over their own blood offspring, and often resent the lack of attention provided by the other parent, both to them and their own children.

·       If a parent dies when a child is young, the child sometimes resents or even hates the dead parent.  They feel abandoned and rejected.

·       Adopted children often struggle with a deep inner sense of Rejection by their birth parents.

·       Middle children often feel rejected because the older and younger siblings get more attention.  Psychologists label this the “middle child syndrome”.

·       If a father, mother, wife or husband has rejected you, please understand that at some time since their conception, they were more than likely also rejected.  No matter the scenario, there is an answer and a “cure” for Rejection.  God accepts you and when you realize your true identity is in Him, Rejection no longer has a chance with you.

Four Steps to be Released from Rejection

Accept God’s love once and for all. 

·       James 1:6-8 says, “But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.  For he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways” (NKJ).

·       A double-mined person is drawn in two opposite directions.  His allegiance is divided and because of his lack of sincerity he vacillates between belief and disbelief, sometimes thinking God will help him and at other times doubting that God is even there.  This not only affects your prayer life but Scripture tells us he is unstable in all his ways.

·       Proverbs 26:7 “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”

·       Don’t vacillate.  You are God’s heir and Christ’s king and priest.  You are accepted, not rejected.  Get rid of self-rejection

·       Since God has accepted you, when you do not accept yourself, you call God a liar.

Develop a close fellowship with God the Father, Jesus the Word, and the Holy Spirit.

·       2 Timothy 1:7 says, “God hasn’t given you the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love and of a sound mind.”  (NKJ)  One antidote for Fear is the power of the Godhead.

·       The Holy Spirit gives us power.  The Father gives us love.  The Word of God, Jesus, gives us a sound mind.  Fellowship with the Godhead drives Fear away.  These all need to be received and appropriated for us to benefit.

Repent of your sin of Rejection.

·       Quit believing the devil and his lies.

·       Accept the truth of what God thinks of you.  You are the apple of His eye, the bride of Christ, the righteousness of God by faith, a son or daughter of God.

God confirms our acceptance.

·       Deuteronomy 32:9-10 says, “For the Lord’s portion is His people; Jacob is the place of his inheritance.  He found him in a desert land, and in the wasteland, a howling wilderness; He encircled him, He instructed him, He kept him as the apple of His eye.”  Psalm 17:7-8 says, “Show Your marvelous lovingkindness, by Your right hand, O You who save those who trust in You from those who rise up against them.  Keep me as the apple of the eye, hide me under the shadow of Your wings.” (NKJ).

·       2 Corinthians 5:21 says, “For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.” (NKJ).

·       2 Timothy 4:8 says, “Finally there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give to me on that Day: and not to me only but also to all who have loved His appearing” (NKJ).

·       Ephesians 1:4-5 says, “just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestinated us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will….” (NKJ).     

Predestined here does not suggest a fatalism that excludes some while including others, but assures an appointed plan and guaranteed destiny for all the redeemed.

God’s Directives

·       Proverbs 26:2 – As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come (KJV).  

·       When we step outside of the commandments of God, we open ourselves up to the devil and his evil spirits.  It is as simple as that.  When you hate your brother, you receive the recompense of the reward.  Through “one man sin entered into the world and death by sin” (Romans 5:12-21).  Through one man’s disobedience sin came and through the obedience of another man, Jesus Christ, we are free.  We are either obedient sons and daughters of God or we are disobedient sons and daughters. 

Your enemy does not have the right to oppress you just because he is out there.  Someone has to open the door and invite him in.  Often it is out of ignorance – remember Hosea 4:6 “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge”?  Sometimes it is generationally passed down.  Sometimes it has to do with sowing and reaping.

·       Deuteronomy 28 lists a bunch of blessings and then there are a bunch of curses.  On the blessings side not one sickness or disease is mentioned but under the curses side there are all manners of disease.  This could be our direct disobedience, or lack of knowledge, or it could be generationally inherited.

Freedom requires responsibility

Blessings/Curses

·       There is a required action on our part in order to receive God’s blessings.  You cannot have your sin and also have your blessings (doctrine of Balaam – Numbers, chapters 22-24).

·       “Behold, I set before you today a blessing and a curse; the blessing, if you obey the commandments of the Lord your God which I command you today:  and a curse, if you do not obey the commandments of the Lord your God, but turn aside from the way which I command you today, to go after other gods which you have not known.” (Deuteronomy 11:26-28) (NKJ).

If, Then and But

·       In Deuteronomy 28 - God said:  IF you do this, THEN I will do this, BUT if you do not, then all these curses shall come upon you.

·       “Now it shall come to pass, if you diligently obey the voice of the Lord your God, to observe carefully all His commandments which I command you today, that the Lord your God will set you high above all nations of the earth.  And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, because you obey the voice of the Lord your God.” (Deuteronomy 28:1-2) (NKJ).

·       I encourage you to read all of Deuteronomy 28.

·       I am not into legalism.  I am into something much deeper than legalism.  I am into something called a “heart change”.

·       “I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing:  therefore choose life,…”  (Deuteronomy 30:19) (NKJ).

·       It is your choice.  Choose this day what you shall have: blessings or curses, life or death.  Curses come from Satan, not from God.

A Place For Discernment

·       As God’s people came into promise, they were immediately brought into a place of discernment.  What is discernment?  It is recognizing the choices - good or evil.  You choose what you are going to believe (Hebrews 5:12-14).

·       God was bringing a very powerful truth to His people – in your obedience to Me and My commandments, which is best for you, the blessings are immediate and close by.  However, if you are disobedient, the curse shall surely come (curse here means consequence).

·       Malachi 3:6 – For I am the Lord, I change not…     Did Jesus come and change certain aspects of the Law?  Yes, He did.  He rewrote certain aspects of the law concerning dietary rules, concerning the Sabbath, concerning an eye for eye and tooth for tooth.  But principles of righteousness have never changed!

·       James 1:13 – “Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted by God: for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone.”

Freed from the Power of Sin and Death

·       We are freed from the power of sin and death at the cross.  But people will say, I thought Jesus said, “It is finished”.  Since it was finished and the penalty of the curse has been paid, why do so many Christians have disease and emotional and mental illnesses?  Scripture tells us Jesus paid the penalty for ALL sins of the world.  Did He pay for ALL sins once and for all?  (YES)  Is everyone saved?  (NO)  But it was finished.  If it was finished, then why isn’t everyone saved?  Because each person must appropriate it by faith.  Ephesians 2:8 – “For by grace are you saved through faith…” Strong’s Concordance definition of grace – “The Divine influence upon the heart AND its reflection in the life.”

·        If we were totally free at conversion, then why would we need to be sanctified?  So why would we listen to Paul tell us about circumcision of the heart?  Why would Paul say to cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit?  We discussed this Scripture previously.

·       “Therefore having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.”  (2 Corinthians 7:1) (NKJ).

Ministry List - Spirits Associated with Rejection 

Abandonment                                                          Discontentment

Fear of Abandonment                                              Need for love, need for    ```approval,

Need for acceptance                                                 

Accusation of others                                                Fabricated personality

Self-accusation                                                        Double-mindedness

Lust, fantasy lust

Rejection by others (fathers                                     Need for identity

Mothers, God, etc.- real or imagined

                                                                                Insecurity

Self-rejection                                                           Self-hatred

Rejection of others                                                  Self-pity

Fear of failure                                                          Depression

Fear of man

Fear of rejection                                                       Rebellion, control, manipulation

Fear of vulnerability                           

Fear of deliverance                                        Unthankfulness

False burden bearing                                              

False responsibility                                                           

Deep hurt and wounding of the Spirit

      coming out of Rejection

SPIRITUAL WARFARE DELIVERANCE PRAYER

A Prayer of repentance and renunciation should include at least the following elements:

Person being ministered to says:

·       Heavenly Father,

·       I recognize and take responsibility for participating with and serving the sin of ( Principality ) in my life.

·       I take responsibility in my generation, on both sides of my family all the way back to the Cross, for the following spirits: (Individual spirits).

·       Father, in the Name of Jesus of Nazareth I repent to You and ask You to forgive me for allowing the above named spirits to manifest through me and by faith I now receive Your forgiveness.

·       Sin of ( Principality ), I renounce everything you stand for in my life. I will no longer serve you. I take a stand against you and everything you represent. You must now leave me and go into a dry place in the Name of Jesus of Nazareth.

·       Father, I thank You for Your forgiveness and ask that the curses be broken.

Person doing the ministry now says:

·       Spirit of ( Principality ), you have heard his/her confession and declaration and you MUST obey him/her and leave now in the Name of Jesus of Nazareth.

·       By the power of the Holy Spirit, I take authority over the spirit of                  ( Principality ) and break your power in his/her life. You no longer have any power, right, or authority in his/her life and I cast you out.

Holy Spirit, I invite you into our hearts to heal us in the areas of (Principality ). Please speak your words of truth to us about these situations.