Unloving Spirits - The Principality of Self

What is an Unloving spirit?  It is an antichrist spirit sent to steal, kill and destroy – you. It’s a spirit that attaches to and attacks us, seeking to make us feel self-rejected, unclean and unworthy.  It tells us that we “don’t measure up”, that “we are no good.”  Our days are spent feeling like we always fall short of others’ expectations or even the expectations of ourselves.  “Not even God could like me.  I can’t stand myself.  Why was I born?”

These Unloving spirits continue their assault so that self-rejection becomes the norm in your life.  The conflict wears you out.  A constant or high level of this type of self-accusation and rejection is evidence that Unloving spirits have taken up residence with us.

The Unloving spirit uses its armor to keep you from discovering the real “You”.  It uses weapons of self-pity, self-abuse, self-rejection, self-hatred, competition, self-pride, self-enthronement, and false piety.

It fires self-comparison, self-idolatry, perfectionism and self-torment at us.  It pushes us to be defensive, and filled with self-doubt, unbelief, self-bitterness, self-resentment, self-unforgiveness, self-retaliation, self-anger, self-violence, and even suicide.  These are but a few of the arms with which Unloving spirits attack us.

A Biblical law is a precept or concept by which one ought to live – a standard.  Paul says that residing within him are two opposing ways of thinking.  One way loves God and desires to serve Him and righteousness.  The other way responds to a different law than God’s law.  Both laws establish within us a code of thoughts, words, actions, beliefs and motives.  Attitudes are defined as habits of thought, so both legal codes promote their own set of attitudes.  And we follow one or the other.  This is how spiritual warfare plays out in our lives.

In this warfare, it is essential to decide which law will rule our lives – the law of God, or of the kingdom of Self controlled by Satan.  The Unloving Spirit – Kingdom of Self – is the Principality and it is protected by strong armor (Luke 11:24-26).

Let’s start by defining the term “self”.  The dictionary definition is “one’s own person, an individual”.  In Romans 7, Paul teaches about the two different “parts” of “self”.  Paul said that there was a part of him that was “good”, and a part of him that was “sin”.  Paul says there are two “laws” working within him.  One is the “law of sin” and the other, the “law of God”.

When Satan entered the world through Adam, another nature became added to our nature – the sin nature.  “Self” now had a – (dash) after it and became the target of Unloving spirits.

Turning back to our dictionary, we notice that immediately following the definition of the word “self” includes many modifiers.

Self-abandonment: disregarding all self-interest.

Self-abasement: humiliation of oneself.

Self-absorbed: focusing on oneself to the exclusion or consideration of others.

Self-abuse:  comes in many forms, i.e., obesity or anorexia, sleep deprivation or too much sleep, lack of exercise or pushing oneself to the brink, denial of normal sexuality or preoccupation with sex.

Self-accusation: constantly finding fault with oneself.

Next to God, we should be our own best friend, enjoying and accepting ourselves.  We should love ourselves.  Perhaps self-love is a novel concept to you.  Self-love, though, is an important Biblical principle.  Jesus taught that we are to love our neighbors as ourselves (Matthew 22:39).

I want you to consider this:  I can teach what God has said about us, but you can reject it.  Rejecting God’s teaching about self-love is, in essence, telling Him that He made a mistake when He created us.  Calling Almighty God a “liar” is serious business, yet when we curse ourselves, we also curse God.  To be successful in finding the peace of God and His healing power, we need to agree with God about this matter of self-love.  Anything that disagrees with God’s Word flows from an anti-Christ spirit.  Psalm 139:14 says that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made.”  Before we were ever knit together in our mother’s womb, God knew us.  Before our bones, eyes, hair and the rest of our body was formed, God knew us.

In Jeremiah 1:5, God told the prophet that He knew and sanctified him while he still lay in the womb.  In Zechariah 2:8, God says we are the “apple of His eye.”  In Isaiah 49:16 we’re told that we are engraved on the palms of His hand.  God took a special interest in each one of us even before we were born.  We are not the product of some accident of nature.

When Jesus, God’s only Son, came to die for us and His Holy Spirit to convict and teach us, it was the ultimate expression of love.  He considered us so valuable that Jesus died for us to reconcile us back to God and make our salvation possible.  John 15:13 says, “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”  Jesus is our Creator, Friend and Savior.

Why, then, did humans begin hating themselves and those around them, all of whom were created in the image of God?  Because Satan came into the world and brought along his lies and accusations.   This is another reason we need to be fully informed of Satan’s wiles (schemes, thoughts).

Competition or Self-Comparison.  It tells us that we are not a “whole person” unless we win or “are right about everything”.  Competition is rooted in self-pride or self-enthronement that forms another layer of Satanic armor.  What is self-enthronement?  Putting ourselves on the throne of our lives so that we become the singular focus of everything that interests us.  Me, me, me.  Self, self, self.

Unloving spirits often drive us to make self-comparisons.  This is the behavior in which we compare our successes to another person’s, putting the other person in the position as an idol – false god.  You hold them – their behavior, looks, lifestyle, etc. – up as a standard to which you aspire.  This type of idolatry can lead us to despise and resent the person we idolize.

Idolatry provides armor to the Principality of an Unloving spirit.  It also leads to another piece of evil armor: perfectionism.  Perfectionism allows no room for failure and you can be sure that if you are engaged in any aspect of life, failure will come at some time.  When perfectionists experience failure, it produces self-accusation and self-condemnation.

Pride is an anti-Christ mentality.  Pride drives a person to dishonesty about himself or herself.  Pride says, “Everybody else has the problem, but I’m glad I don’t.”

Pride is the result of disobedience to the Word of God.  It is the ultimate expression of Satan who thought himself to be so great he believed he was equal to God.

Another piece of the armor of an Unloving spirit is “I and the I will”.  An anti-Christ spirit will always protect, develop and look to itself first.  It sees the world in a sphere that surrounds self.  It thrives on the I, I will, self-exaltation, attention getting, excessive talkativeness, insecurity, self-mutilation, excessive eating, and bingeing.

Referring to Satan, Isaiah 14:13 says, “For you have said in your heart: I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God; I will also sit on the mount of the congregation on the farthest sides of the north;”

Learning to be free from an Unloving spirit requires looking beyond ourselves and really seeing others.  It gives us the ability to look at those who have rejected or victimized us and realize they have serious problems of their own.  It is the ability to separate the sin from the sinner, and gives us the ability to forgive and have compassion on them.

This is a truth about all created beings, from archangels to people:  God gave us all a free will.  God gave us the ability to make quality decisions.  None of us were created as puppets or clones, or to simply vegetate.  All of us have been given the ability to reason out a matter and come to a conclusion.  Then we CHOOSE how we will respond.

Deuteronomy 30:19 says, “…that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live;” Every created being has free choice.  Joshua 24:15 says to “…choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, …But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”

Lucifer tempted the other angels with self-exaltation, promising them power, supremacy and rulership.  We need to answer the question, “What does Satan use to tempt us?”  One-third of the angels followed his lead, indicating his temptation is powerful.

David’s life gives us the key.  When Nathan confronted him with his sins, he tore his robes and lay before God, begging forgiveness.  Psalm 51 powerfully tells us the story.  Because David repented, he was called “a man after God’s own heart” (Acts 13:22).  The key was repentance in humility going before God, acknowledging his sin, asking for forgiveness and turning away from evil.  Making the right choice today sets us apart in both this life and for eternity.

A person who has an Unloving spirit often desires attention.  A bully usually has both a spirit of Rejection and an Unloving spirit.  He compensates for these evil influences through bragging, bravado and threats.  Why?  He thinks that getting attention will mask his spiritual deficiencies.

Excessive talkativeness is another piece of Satan’s armor he uses to disguise the strong man of the Unloving spirit.  This is the person who always has something to say, talks non-stop, but really never says much of value.  Such a person has deep struggles with insecurity.  They talk excessively to avoid dealing with their own issues.

Insecurity is a form of fear – fear of man, of failure, of abandonment, of rejection, etc.  The Unloving spirit is a Principality who often links arms with the Principalities of Fear and Rejection.  1 John 4:18 says, “perfect love casts out fear.”  One way we defeat Fear is with the perfect love of the Father and trusting God.

When we have mastered loving God, self and others, Fear doesn’t stand a chance.  To defeat Fear, we must face him down by learning to love ourselves and to be prepared to deal with the armor of the Unloving spirit.  We can’t defeat Fear unless we’ve defeated the Unloving spirit.  Part of the armor of the Unloving spirit is self-doubt, self-unbelief, and self-questioning.  When we battle an Unloving spirit, we always question our beliefs and motives, further eroding our self-confidence.

Part of an Unloving spirit’s armor is division.  An Unloving spirit seeks to divide and conquer by destroying unity.  When an Unloving spirit successfully accuses a person, they are not interested in peace; they’re interested in war.  Schisms produce or result from strife.  When strife exists, a door for every evil thing is flung open.  James 3:16 says, “For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.”

These aspects of an Unloving spirit make up its armor.  These are the “goods” of Luke 11:21. This is another example of how the armed strong man fights to keep his palace.  How do we “spoil the goods”?  We learn to discern each of the goods to determine which ones are of Satan and then we begin unraveling them.

Satan uses self-bitterness against us.  Here, instead of being bitter toward others, we are bitter toward ourselves.  Self-bitterness produces an inability to forgive ourselves.  Have you ever struggled with unforgiveness toward yourself?  I have. 

Self-bitterness leads to self-resentment.  It says, “I can never do anything right.  The harder I try the worse things get.  I never have been any good, never will be any good.  I’m just a nobody.  I don’t like the way I look.  Daddy was right – I’ll never amount to anything.”  All of these thoughts stem from self-bitterness.

Self-resentment leads to self-retaliation.  This will cause us to react strongly and negatively to someone who accuses us.  Our negativity results from their rejection of us, which is what we expected in the first place.  Before long, we have developed a continual pattern of victimization.

Victimization, oddly enough, is a type of control.  It gains us attention and can win us support outside of our abusive relationship.  We win membership in the victim’s support groups.

When self-hatred, which results in abuse by others, becomes dominant, it is a force that “takes over” and we are unable to stop the craziness.  The only way to break its hold is to totally remove ourselves from the situation, to gain space and cool off.  When we remove ourselves from a violent situation but fail to deal with our root problems, the next person we marry or move in with is most often an abuser.  We recreate the same situation, and hear ourselves say, “Oh, no!  Here I go again.”

How do I know that it’s an Unloving spirit?  Because the Bible makes it clear that a man who hates his wife hates himself.  They became one flesh in marriage, and if the man is abusing his wife he is abusing himself (Ephesians 5:31).  He hates what God loves.

People accused by Unloving spirits split churches, split families, and ruin businesses.  They seem bent on finding trouble.  What did the Lord say?  “If at all possible, live peaceably one with another.”  When people cannot live or work together peaceably, it might be time to consider a change.

Have you ever experienced self-anger?  “I just can’t stand myself!”  “See, here’s more proof how stupid I am!”  In self-anger, we will find perfectionism, self-accusation and self-condemnation.  When these three come together, they will trigger anger like a flash fire.

Self-anger is no respecter of persons.  We see how it affects us well enough, but if we’re not careful, this anger will spill over onto somebody else.  The devil is an equal opportunity oppressor.

Consider self-hatred.  We don’t get to self-hatred without self-bitterness accusing us.  Self-hatred results from something that simmers and festers below the surface, often for days, weeks, months or years.

The next stage is self-violence.  Self-anger spills over into committing some type of hurtful act against oneself.  On occasions counselees have shared that they have cut or mutilated themselves out of extreme shame or guilt.

The ultimate expression of self-violence is, of course, suicide.  When we entertain thoughts of suicide, we have clear evidence of self-bitterness with its entire evil armor in full battle array.  To defeat self-murder, we have to break the bond of the Unloving spirit and eliminate self-bitterness.

Constantly defending oneself is rooted in the fear of Rejection, but it’s also tied directly to the Unloving spirit.  We desire to feel safe in our relationships, and if we perceive an attack we become defensive.  So sensitized are we to these perceived attacks that we “fly off the handle”, even when we are not being provoked.

Some people always seem to be trying to “fix” someone else.  They marry the alcoholic or the abuser, suffer for it, get divorced and do it again.  This, too, is driven by an element of the Unloving spirit.  Here, we are drawn to others who “need us” so we can feel value about ourselves.  We have an urge to help these people see that they are alright and worthwhile, but we fail to confront their real spiritual needs.

Self-pity is the most dangerous of all the Unloving spirits because it binds us to past evil spirits.  This binding keeps us from God's future provision, binds us to what somebody has done to us or what we've done to ourselves.  Self-pity says nobody really understands us, and even if they did, they don't really care.  Self-pity is the “superglue” of hell, binding us to the past.

Self-pity creates a vicious circle.  We need to be loved and use our manipulating techniques to get someone's attention.  Then we offend them enough that they leave us alone.  This increases our self-pity and the cycle repeats itself.  Self-pity is very dangerous, because it binds our freedom with a life sentence.

A compulsive spender needs the rush gained from buying yet another thing.  It is their fix to help them feel good about themselves.  Compulsive spending is very similar to binging.  It attempts to satisfy its love void with material possessions.  It flows from an Unloving spirit.

Self-sabotage is also dangerous because it is tied closely with self-mutilation and self-destruction.  Self-sabotage destroys our faith because faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not yet seen. (Hebrews 11:1) Self-sabotage says that our faith will never work and on those occasions when we attempt to live by faith, we sabotage the results.  Self-sabotage keeps us from ever achieving our hopes.

“Ungodly Vows” or “self-talk” is another form of self-sabotage.  When we say, "I will never trust women (or men) again," because of how we have been hurt, Satan is there, ready to fulfill those words and every future relationship that begins to grow close is destroyed.  The "I will never" do this or that statements set us up for failure in the future (Proverbs 23:7).

False piety is another evil spirit.  In the context of the Christian faith, piety means devotion to God, His Word and Biblical religious practices.  It carries the element of loyalty and devotion to parents and family.

False piety is contrary to Godly piety.  “Even though mom and dad abuse me, victimize me, and reject me, since the Bible says to honor your father and mother, I’ll just have to submit, like it or not.”  This false piety preaches the stiff upper lip when confronting ungodly behavior in others.

Nowhere in the Bible are we taught to submit to evil.  When God says to honor your father and mother, He doesn’t mean to submit to their authority if it is used in an evil way.

God calls us to peace and to have a perfect hatred for evil.  So why would we submit to evil?  False piety produces martyrdom and martyrdom can be true or false.  True martyrs suffer for the sake of the Cross, not to raise their own self-image or to give them an excuse why they should do nothing to correct a bad situation.

There are many ways that we show a lack of Godly self-love.  We need to learn to accept our position in Christ and the extreme love God places on us, and begin a proper love relationship with ourselves.  I choose to believe the report of the Lord.  Let God be true and every man, devil, angel and created being (that includes the lies I tell myself) that preaches another gospel be accursed and be a liar (Romans 3:4).

1 Corinthians 13 tells us the more excellent way is love.  Godly love, directed at others and ourselves, drives out an Unloving spirit and all its armor.  Without it, everything we do falls far short of God’s desire.  1 Peter 3:12 says, “…for the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous and His ears are open unto their prayers.” 

Spirits Associated With Unloving (Anti-Christ) - Ministry List

Self-Pride	Not necessary
Self-Idolatry	Not important or needed
Selfishness	Self-Doubt
Programming	Self-Unbelief
Competition	Self-Questioning
I and I Will	Lack of Confidence
Self-Exaltation	Self-Abasement
Prefabricated Personality
	Self-Consciousness
Broken Heart	Self-Deception
Ungodly Grief	Self-Sabotage
Shame
Self-Pity
	Division
	Separation
Self-Rejection	Isolation
Self-Accusation	Loneliness
Self-Condemnation	Shut down
	Religious spirit
Self-Bitterness	False Piety
Self-Resentment	Victimization
Self-Unforgiveness
Self-Anger/Wrath	Double-Mindedness
Self-Hatred	Fornication
Self-Violence	Adultery
Self-Murder	Pornography
Insecurity	Attention-Getting
Examples of behavior:	Excessive Talking
Anorexia, bulimia, bingeing	Self-Comparison
Obsessive-Compulsive behaviors	Need for approval
	Co-Dependency
Fear	Perfectionism
Ungodly Vows
Rebellion
Self-Mutilation	Envy/Jealousy
Self-Annihilation	Addictions
Self-Torment	Drunkenness

SPIRITUAL WARFARE DELIVERANCE PRAYER

A Prayer of repentance and renunciation should include at least the following elements:

Person being ministered to says:

·       Heavenly Father,

·       I recognize and take responsibility for participating with and serving the sin of    

( Principality ) in my life.

·       I take responsibility in my generation, on both sides of my family all the way back to the Cross, for the following spirits: ( individual  spirits ).

·       Father, in the Name of Jesus of Nazareth I repent to You and ask You to forgive me for allowing the above named spirits to manifest through me and by faith I now receive Your forgiveness.

·       Sin of ( Principality ), I renounce everything you stand for in my life. I will no longer serve you. I take a stand against you and everything you represent. You must now leave me and go into a dry place in the Name of Jesus of Nazareth.

·       Father, I thank You for Your forgiveness and ask that the curses be broken.

Person doing the ministry now says:

·       Spirit of ( Principality ), you have heard his/her confession and declaration and you MUST obey him/her and leave now in the Name of Jesus of Nazareth.

·       By the power of the Holy Spirit, I take authority over the spirit of                  ( Principality ) and break your power in his/her life. You no longer have any power, right, or authority in his/her life and I cast you out.

Holy Spirit, I invite you into our hearts to heal us in the areas of                                        ( Principality ) Please speak your words to us about these situations.